Ah life with three kids under seven. Some days everything goes off without a hitch and we just get to laugh and play all day and those are the best days. But then there’s days when everyone is sick and cranky and no one will seem to listen to you. On days like that I’m reminded of this YouTube video:
When I first saw this video a few years ago I laughed so hard I almost peed my pants but with three kids under 7 some days really do feel like I am saying all those things in the video about 20 million times.
Summer is coming to a close and even though we aren’t sure when our children will be going to pre school and school this year ( there’s currently a teacher’s strike here in British Columbia) I thought I would take the time to write down some of the great memories we created for our children. This summer was the same as every summer around here. We found some new and fun things to explore that are free or pretty cheap. My favourite outing with the family this summer was by far Lynn Canyon. If you ever have a chance to visit Lynn Canyon it’s simply a must.
I think this trip is memorable for more then one reason. Last year I still had my two youngest children in a stroller which meant hiking was doable but you really needed to research the trails and double check that they indeed accommodated strollers. The baby of the family was also still in diapers which meant we had to drag the dreaded diaper bag everywhere making it interesting when the little man decided to take a poop in the middle of a beautiful nature walk. I was one proud mama to see all three little ones not only walking numerous trails this summer but actually loving being in nature and coming up with games as we walked. In fact just last week I went walking in a trail with the kids and a friend and her children and they had a whole story about not being in a walk and not being kids but knights searching for princesses and fairies.
But you must be thinking these poor kids did all they do is hike this summer. Well of course not because mommy and daddy sometimes like to act like big kids too. So we discovered wading pools and splash pads and even an amazing farmers market where the kids enjoy seeing the chickens that lay the eggs and the clown made them ballon animals. And we also went to free art in the park events which was put on by the city of burnaby. I have to say art in the park is a must every year. Face painting, scavenger hunts and crafts all in the great outdoors there is no better way to spend a morning then that.
I do have to say the whole summer was not a walk in the park. This summer we decided to decrease the amount of time the kids have in front of the television and increase the activity. That was a tough transition for all involved. And we also decreased their processed food and increased real food. The market helped that transition go a little more smooth since the kids loved knowing where their food came from.
It’s sad that another summer is coming to an end but I’m excited to see how much the kids will have changed and matured next year. Who knows maybe we will go on a canoe trip with them next year.
It’s summer, which means vacation for thousands of families. Whether it’s the North American pilgrimage to Disney, visiting family, or just seeing disparate family members, flying with kids is not easy at any age. Here are some times for making the airplane ride as enjoyable as possible for you as well as your fellow travellers.
The Airplane Ride
Our last flight was intimidating because we had to keep three very young children busy but in their seats for six hours on a nonstop flight across the continent. Our oldest was intrigued by the plane and take off, but got bored fast. The babies needed constant entertainment. Overall we were able to keep them in their seats, quietly playing with toys, and fed to satisfaction so there were no tears or bouts of yelling. If anyone else on the plane was disturbed, it was by the presence of children on the plane, not by noise or invasion of space.
Key takeaways from this excursion were:
Seat Selection: It cost more to pre-book the seats but I am glad we did. As it was we took an entire row just for our family. If we had left it to chance the flight crew would have tried to arrange for us to move together once all the passengers had boarded, but it wasn’t a guarantee. That would have been messy.
Seat Location: We sat as far back as possible on the plane. This was good because most other passengers try to sit near the front of the plane so the back tends to be emptier. We had a great view of the latrine which came in handy for the many in-air diaper changes (what an adventure!).
Feeding: We were still on a three hour schedule for feeding the baby, but fortunately we didn’t need to give him prepared bottles. We bought milk after passing security and managed with sippy cups for the older kids. The flight crew were kind enough to warm up the youngest one’s bottle with milk for us.
If you are traveling with smaller children, most airlines are able to warm bottles for you (but check ahead!). You are allowed to carry on as much powdered formula as you need but airport security may want to check any prepared bottles. Honestly, if you have to fly with an infant ready-made bottles are your friend assuming your baby doesn’t have an intolerance. They can be consumed at room temperature and are pretty easy to carry around.
Entertainment: Three kids meant three carry-on bags, which we took advantage of to stuff full of small toys. Every thirty minutes or so we would bring out a new toy and put the old one back, keeping things new and interesting. The tactic worked!
This was before the rise of the iPad – totally bring your iPad if you can!
Time of Day: I booked the flight for nap time! Although there was a lot of excitement and distraction, all of the kids took turns sleeping on the flight. I can’t say enough how thankful we were for those down times!
No matter how well behaved your kids are there will be other travellers on the plane who have their nose bent out of shape about having to share the cabin space with children. Don’t let them bother you. Honestly the engine noise is louder than any whiney kid; people need to come prepared with headphones and their own entertainment.
At the same time remember that people generally do not board a plane (or bus, or boat) looking to socialize with other travellers - they typically want to be left alone and eke out as much personal space as they can. Your child may be absolutely cute and delightful, but that doesn’t mean other passengers appreciate getting googly eyes, touched, stared at, or otherwise interacted with by uninvited children.
The morale of the story is keep your kids forward facing and entertained. You’re expected to parent your child - that can be a tough job! One day they’ll be grown enough to manage on their own and you can sleep through your flights again, but when you have small kids to take care of that’s all you need to think about doing.
Do you have any horror stories or funny tales to share from your experiences traveling with your kids? Share them below!
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Most parents have heard of the "time out" - a technique for achieving obedience and reducing bad behaviour in your children by separating them from the family group or problem activity for a short period of time. There are people who oppose time outs for children on the basis that "isolation" can harm their overall well-being by making them feel unloved and unwanted. Based upon my own experience I disagree with this assessment.
Like most children, mine are intelligent, curious, playful, good-natured and kind. Also, like most children, mine lack world experience due to their very young age. They don't know what can and can't hurt them; therefore it is my job as a parent to keep them safe while providing them an abundance of opportunity to be independent and explore their environment. It's a tough line to walk but for me the standard is "parent first, friend second".
So I warn them but let them climb the chair knowing that they don't have perfect balance and are going to fall off. I let them fight (just a little, before it gets out of control) so they learn how to resolve conflicts without adult intervention. I gently provide as much guidance as they are willing to accept and then I let them learn from the outcome of their own decisions.
But sometimes a firm hand is needed. That fight gets out of control, or they insist on climbing a less-than-sturdy table, or they're overtired and can't control their screaming and thrashing. At the end of the day my kids aren't yet stable, independent adults - they're just on their way there. Which mean it's time for me to step in and control the situation.
The time out is a terrific tool because it is calm and authoritative without being an outright punishment. When one of my kids loses control of himself, I walk him to the corner of the room - away from toys and out of sight of the television and any distractions - tell him what he did to be put on a time out, and have him sit for 1-2 minutes to calm down.
Since toddlers can sometimes get into tantrums of extreme flailing rage, I stick around to make sure he doesn't hurt himself. The thing to remember is that young children lack the mental capacity to handle their frustrations, and often the only way they can express their frustration is by crying, screaming, and being physically violent. I don't buy into people who say you can "talk it out" in every situation - children sometimes need to be given an opportunity to get their emotions out of their system before any reasonable conversation can take place. This is a major difference between a young child and a grown-up.
After he has been calm for those minutes we hug it out and talk about why we needed to take a time out. What is the underlying cause of this frustration or behaviour? If the conflict was with another child, we can get together and work through how to share, or play nicely, or whatever it was that caused the unwanted behaviour.
I'm finding as my oldest is approaching 4 years old, just warning him of a timeout is enough to have him stop and correct his behaviour, or at least have a conversation about why he is misbehaving. Very often it falls into one of three causes:
- Jealous over attention given to a sibling
- Being over-tired and in need of rest
- A desire to become more independent, therefore testing his boundaries
In all cases it's fine to be understanding, but as parents it is our job to maintain a safe and harmonious household. If the kids refuse to do as they're told, you need to take immediate action to correct that. It may be something as harmless as playing in the living room where you can see them today, rather than in the hallway. But tomorrow, it may be something serious, such as telling them to stay close to you in a parking lot so they don't get hit by a car. If they don't listen to you now, why would they do it in a truly dangerous situation? Answer: They won't.
So be prepared to back up what you say with discipline, and don't ask them to do anything you aren't willing to fight to get them to do because at some point your bluff will be called. That's why I try to be as laid back as possible with my kids and I try to only tell them to do things when I'm really serious about having those things done. It's hard work, but our children rely on us to be strong, consistent, and provide structure.
They're growing up really fast, and I will always be that rock, that pillar of strength for my kids. I'll pick my battles. And I'll enjoy every minute of time I get with them.