When Baby Refuses Bottle

Just when you become accustomed to your baby behaving a certain way, suddenly their habits change and you find yourself dealing with a whole new set of circumstances. You may have been fortunate enough to have a baby that takes lots of naps during the day but now decides not to take any more naps at all. Or, like us, you may have a baby who suddenly decides that drinking from their bottle is too boring for their newly refined sense of self.

It can be tricky to figure out your child’s needs, particularly around the one-year mark. They can’t talk yet and tell you what’s on their mind. At the same time they want to experience more independence and begin learning skills (like walking and crawling) that they may not be fully prepared for. Before you know it you’re picking dirt out of their mouth even after you thought your floor was spotlessly clean.

When the baby refuses to drink, you have the tough job of figuring out whether they have become sick, whether they’re in pain because of teething issues, whether they are just being picky and need to be given a “sippy” cup, or whether they need to be left alone to play.

How to tell when your baby’s refusal to drink is serious enough to call the doctor

1. If the baby has a high fever (39.7/103.5 or more) take them to the emergency room immediately.
2. If your baby has a more mild fever, is sleepy or hard to wake, and refuses their bottles take them to see their doctor.
3. If your baby hasn’t passed stools for more than two days and is irritable, they could need help to soften their poop before they get a blockage. Take your child to the doctor soon especially if they are showing signs of pain when forcing.
4. Check for rashes, bug bites, ticks. Check everywhere – chest, back, arms, legs, armpits, groin area, scalp. A bug bite or infection can sometimes cause enough discomfort to preclude eating.

BPA’s Shiny Friend

It seems like everything we do is bad for us. Now that we have switched all of our bottles to glass we thought we could take a moment and be proud that toxic chemicals can’t leech into our child’s food. No such luck!

While we no longer have to worry about Bisphenal A from plastic bottles, we aren’t totally protected because whenever we prepare a can of formula concentrate we are dealing with a product that may contain a questionable dose of the chemical.

As mentioned earlier, Bisphenal A (BPA) is added to plastic products to increase their strength. A lesser known use is as a component of the liner within tin cans. In both instances, when the container is heated the BPA leeches into the food contents. For those not in the know, canned food is heated to kill any bacteria that may be present thereby increasing its shelf life.

What I want to know is – did our switch to glass bottles really make a difference? Is my son getting half the dose of this toxic chemical? How worried should I be?

Coffee Shop Can’t Spare a Cup of Hot Water

The day started as usual with my son and I heading out the door to run some errands.

Diaper bag: check.
Bottles: check.
Car bottle warmer: check.

About 20 minutes before bottle time I plugged in the car warmer and dropped in the bottle only to discover that my crappy $35 warmer has gone on strike and is not going to heat up my bottle. Thankfully it’s about that time when mommy needs a coffee, so to the drive through we go for our large café mocha and bagel with cream cheese.

“Please drive up to the window and I will give you your total there.”

I pay for my things and ask the man at the window if I could have a cup with hot water because my bottle warmer isn’t working. He says he has to get his manager and asks me to wait. The manager comes to the window and after rudely telling me that this isn’t a baby store tells me it will be $1.75 for a cup of water. I tell him I am willing to pay 25 cents but not a penny more for a cup of hot water.

Again he affirms there was a tap in the washroom for me to use otherwise I would have to pay $1.75. I tell him thanks but no thanks. I drive around the building park my car, take my son and the bottle out, and wait at the tap for 10 minutes for the milk to heat up.

You would think that the coffee industry could afford a cup of hot water, especially if they were reimbursed a quarter for being out a cup, but I guess they don’t get rich by being nice to a mother that needed a little help.

Infant Massage Helped My Son Poop

I did it: after 72 hours of labor I give birth to a beautiful, healthy baby boy. I was determined to breastfeed and at four days old it seemed to be going well, but then everything came apart. I didn’t feel right but the hospital discharged me anyway all the while telling me that since I was a first time mom I just wasn’t familiar with how I should feel after giving birth; despite my objections I was told I was feeling fine – that should have given me my first clue. I went to my pediatrician for a blood test, and 24 hours later he sent me back to the hospital for a blood transfusion because I turned out I was hemorrhaging.

After shocking news was delivered to me, my breast milk suddenly backed up and wouldn’t come down. After trying to breastfeed every 15 minutes for a day and a half I wanted to scream to someone: “get this child a damn bottle!” The first few days of formula were great but it wasn’t long until the sudden change in diet caused my son to become constipated. He cried and I could see he was having trouble going to the washroom. When I went to see the nurse at our playgroup that week I asked her what I could do she told me to give my son some “tummy time”. Even though 3 weeks is young to be starting tummy time, I figured it couldn’t do a lot more harm than the pain he was already experiencing.

 After a few more days I went to see my doctor who advised me to give my son 1-2 ounces of apple juice. The juice worked, but only if I gave it to him everyday – young children especially at his age should not be consuming juice every day. As a cure for constipation, the juice was a temporary fix but not something I could ever get behind as a routine cure.

One day he got so constipated that we ended up at CHEO. They looked at me like I was crazy (“You’re here because of what?”) but once they examined him they realized he really did need help and gave him a suppository, which again I was only to give when constipated. The baby kept getting constipated and I kept giving him enemas until I realized he hadn’t even tried to poop on his own. Back to the drawing board: what can I do to help my son poop? He didn’t want anything out of the ordinary; he just wanted to crap in peace.

Finally I discovered infant massage which has saved both of us a lot of pain and frustration. I was lucky enough to get this class free but if I have another child and they don’t offer free classes I would pay. They show you how to relieve gas pains and to get your child’s bowels moving so that they can poop, all while both of you bond. It’s like a 2 for 1 special: you get to help you child by relieving potential pain and at the same time spend quiet time together.

I would recommend this class to every parent and I think they should teach it in the prenatal classes. We learn how to bath and feed, swaddle and sooth, why not massage? After massaging him 10 minutes later the farting began and then the biggest poop I ever saw. I mean in his socks, up his back; the “man I’m glad I got this out” kind of poop. So if you’re having trouble with gas pains try this; I’m telling you it works. If you are a self-leaner you can even get a manual online or in bookstores to show you how to perform the routine.

Bottled Doesn’t Mean Better

In today’s society, everyone is used to getting everything from the store. For example when we want a refreshing glass of cold water we no longer go to the tap and wait for the water get cold. Instead, we open the refrigerator and open a plastic bottle as if it were always there. Heaven forbid company should come over and you offer them tap water. I use to think drinking bottled water was better that drinking the tap water; that is, until I had my son.

On one of our adventurous trips to my in-laws we forgot to pack our jug of water to make the babies bottles. We knew he had some trouble tolerating water from other places so out came the bottle water which we thought would be the perfect solution. At the time we were using powdered formula so in the mornings we would boil water and keep it hot in a thermos. When it came to feeding time all we had to do was add the powder and hot water to the bottle, shake it, and let it cool. This takes much less time than heating a bottle up. After boiling the bottled water and leaving it in the thermos for his feeding we opened it and found a grainy deposit on the bottom. Whatever this stuff was, it was going into our child’s stomach. After a little bit of research and reading the label on the water bottles we realized that there was a huge amount of sodium and other minerals which was creating the deposits.

So is the bottle water better than our good old fashion tap water? If regularly tested and maintained I think not. Let’s stop using those plastic bottles and just open the tap for crying out loud.